The Ideal Return

Welcome to Man Reason's the Ideal Wifey. Sorry that we have been gone for awhile but we had some things to take care of, some new experiences to experience, and some research to do to make us better at what we do. What we do is tell the truth. Sometimes the truth hurts. Sometimes you may not like what you are being told. If that is the case then you shouldn’t ask for the truth. Today, the Ideal Wifey will focus on an ugly truth, "being the mistress."

Now ladies that are sensitive and can handle the truth don’t read any further than here. What I am about to say is going to hurt. At some point, your spouse will have a mistress. I’m sorry, that is the truth. He may not have her now, but sooner or later there will be someone whom you can consider his mistress. By mistress I just mean someone in his life that is equal to you. Not saying that he is sleeping with this person, but this person and him have some type of relationship. Unfortunately, if you are the main woman in his life, this blog post is not for you. This is actually for the mistresses of the world. Yes, I said it. This is for the mistresses of the world to learn how to be the perfect mistress. Welcome to Man Reason's the Ideal Wifey!!!

HOW TO BE THE PERFECT MISTRESS

There is an art to be a mistress. There are a lot of women that have tried and a lot who have failed. Today the Ideal Wifey will tell you the four secrets to being the perfect mistress.

1. Be happy being number 2

There are a lot of articles I just learned about being a mistress. Many women have made a lucrative career at being number 2. The one thing I have learned which separates a good mistress from a bad one is when a mistress decides she is no longer willing to be number 2. Face it when youu entered the relationship he had a spouse, be happy with being number 2. Your relationship with him and his relationship with his wife should be completely separate. Never ask about the other woman, and if he starts talking about her cut him off and change the subject. The one thing you don’t want to be is the girl he runs to only because him and his spouse are having problems you want him to want to be around you because you are this great woman that he has a connection with but he is married to another woman that he had a similar connection to. Being number 2 does not require the same amount of work as being number 1. Number one has responsibilities that number 2 does not have to deal equally with. Enjoy being number 2.

2. Know him

Ok I just said don’t ask him about his wife, but as him about his life. You should know every detail about him. Yes the mysterious man is so appealing but the mysterious man is not a man you can trust. So what he's cheating on his wife with you that doesn’t make him not trust worthy. He maybe lying to his wife about things but make sure he is not lying to you.  The only way to do that is to know him. Also, I just said not to ask about his wife, but you need to know about the wife. Hey, she might be crazy. You should know as much as you can about her without allowing him to go through a complain feast about her. Remember the goal is not to be the girl that he comes running to when him and his wife are into it, the goal is to be in a relationship with him equal to the one he is currently in with his wife.

3. Be good

Ok, maybe he just needs you for sex; maybe he just needs you to listen. Whatever the case, be good at that deed. Reason being, you want him to keep coming back to you. Remember that this is a relationship you are in. Yes it’s a secret relationship, but you are in a relationship. Treat it as such. Back on subject. If your man likes to cuddle, then you need to cuddle. If your man likes football, have Tom Brady over to the house. Be good at what you do.

4. Make sure he is treating his wife better than he treats you

Ok, reality is you are the number two, be sure he treats you as such. Yes, he may want to shower you with gifts, take you on trips, and show you a good time, but make sure that he is also doing these thing with his wife. Occasionally, the mistress makes the mistake of wanting too much and too much of his time is concentrating on keeping the mistress happy, mostly from trying to keep his extramarital affair secret and some from wanting to give to someone who will appreciate what he is doing. Regardless of his reason, be sure that he is equally treating his wife the same. The Man Reason reason is because one day you may become the number one, you want to be sure that he will continue to treat you equally as good as he did when he had you as his number 2.

Conclusion

Face it, you are the number 2. Remember to be a good mistress, besides being quiet about the relationship, you need to treat it like a relationship. Remember the mistress’s role is as important as the wifey’s role. Remember these simple rules and your relationship with him will be as important to him as his relationship with his wife. The Ideal Mistress. 




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Friends

Welcome to the Ideal Wifey!!! Look, this is not rocket science that we are dealing with here. It’s real simple and real easy to do. Relationships are not hard. How many times do I have to say it? RELATIONSHIPS ARE NOT HARD!!! I had a female friend (not) come up to me and say that she does not know what to do to make her man happy. I asked her “What makes him happy?” She responded that she doesn’t know. I was like maybe you should ask and do what he says. She was completely confused about this. So I had to dumb it down for her. Communicate, Listen, and Do. Unfortunately, she still didn’t get it. Welcome to the Ideal Wifey!!!

Friends: How Many of Us Have ‘Em

Platonic. Some mistake your kindness as we’re cool. Some pretend to be real interested in everything that you say. Some appear that they have no romantic interest.

Officially for the record, there is no such thing as Platonic Friends. Nope, you are not friends. Accept it. Nope, not friends. Okay, let’s say I am wrong. I can prove it.

Are We Just Friend’s Test

1. Get naked and see what happens?

2. Ask to sleep with them?

3. Ask their friends how they feel about you?

Point proven. Yep.

Friends: With Benefits

Just because you are not sleeping with someone doesn’t mean that your friendship is not adding extra benefits. Emotionally, what are you receiving from your “platonic” friendship. It could be possible that you are sharing so much with this other person that you have crossed over to an emotional affair without knowing it. The key to know if you are in an emotional:

Am I in an Emotional Affair Test

1. Do you tell this person the problems you are having with your spouse?

a. If yes, does this person say that your spouse is always in the wrong or states that they would not treat you or someone else similar to how your spouse treats you?

2. Do you share information with this person that you do not with your spouse?

3. Do you feel disappointed if you do not talk to this person on any given day?

Friends: Q&A

“What do I do if I thought we were just friends, but he made a move on me?”

Get out of that friendship. It is clear that you guys were never friends to him. You guys will never be friends after you have turned him down.

“A friend and I agreed that we should just sleep together until we find real mates, but I get jealous whenever he dates other girls. I want to know does he get jealous when I date other guys, but I am afraid to ask. How do I ask him?”

If you care if he gets jealous when you date other guys, which means that there is much more there to you then just sex. If he has not already told you or expresses no feelings toward you dating other guys, then you are just sex to him. I would go as far as saying that you guys are not even friends.

“I thought if I was this guys friend he would see me as the perfect girl, but I don’t think he is. How do I get him to look at me as not his friend but the girl he should be with?”

If he doesn’t already look at you as the perfect girl, then you will never be his perfect girl. Depending on how long you guys have been friends, he already has formed an image of what you would be like as a girlfriend. The only chance you have is to just tell him that you want him as more than a friend and see what happens.

Ideal Wifey Friends Part 1…to be continued

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Five Myths About Relationship

Welcome to the Man Reason Ideal Wifey!!! Well, I am getting a lot of slack on a future post I am working on about men and women being friends. Face it ladies, you can’t have your cake and eat it too. But I am not going to start on that yet, you’ll just have to wait for that next post. Today though I am going to focus on Five Myths About Relationships that women may have. I kept it to five to insure that I got five quality myths. Welcome to the Ideal Wifey!!!

Five Myths About Relationships

There are several relationship myths that cause great confusion not only for women but also for men. Today I am going to focus on some of the major myths.

1. Relationships are hard work: The biggest myth of all. Relationships are actually easy. It is not hard to please someone who communicates their needs and wants. Relationships are only difficult when there is a lack of communication. If two people can communicate their wants and needs then it should be easy for a relationship to continue without the "hard work" that communication-less relationships require. In communicating, I don’t mean yelling and screaming at each other. I mean sit down let’s talk, before we got to sleep pillow talk, text me until I have to get on an unlimited plan talk, or email me at one of the thousand email addresses I have type talk. Open up, share with your spouse. There goes the “hard work.” Communication is like drawing a blueprint.

2. You are the only person your spouse is going to be attracted too: Get it out your head that your spouse is not going to want anyone else or be attracted to anyone else. The world is huge and there has to be at least one other person that your spouse is going to find attractive, interesting, and/or sexually appealing. This does not mean that your spouse does not love you or not find you attractive.

3. There is a such thing as love: There is no such thing as love in a way. Love is a taught. What is a relationship is learned. Your definition of love and what is a true romantic relationship and the definition of love and relationship that your spouse may have will be different. Reason behind this is that the influences that teach us the definitions behind feelings are different for everyone living. Influences include family, friends, strangers, the media, and societal views. No two people will have the same definition for love and relationship. This discrepancy in defining love and relationships leads to conflicts within a relationship. In order to minimize the possible conflicts within a relationship, most people adopt the accepted societal views and beliefs of what is love and relationships. Though two people may have different definitions, it is also possible for two people to come to an understanding through communication, creating their own guidelines to love and relationship.

4. He doesn’t love you if he cheats: There are several different types of cheating. The most socially unacceptable one is physical cheating. Another lesser form of cheating is emotional cheating. What is cheating and the importance of not cheating is different from relationship to relationship. Much like the word “love” the word “cheating” is defined differently in every relationship. The guidelines to what is cheating within a relationship are typically decided early in the development of a relationship. For this post, I will only be concentrating on the myth that if he physically cheats then he doesn’t love you.

Your body craves four things. Air, water, food, sex. Later I will describe how your lifespan is based on achieving these four things throughout your life. In short without satisfying these four urges your lifespan decreases. That’s another post though. Even though you may be in a relationship, doesn’t mean that the basic sexual urges that one experiences, which still includes the natural selection process, stops. Meaning, the urges never stop to procreate. Sex is an essential part of life, a separation is needed to understand that fulfilling the urge to physically cheat is psychological also and not based off feelings one may or may not have. Read the Man Reason Fulfillment: The Art of Cheating, to get a better understanding to what I am referring to in cheating fulfillment.

5. You’ll know when your relationship is over: Your relationship may have ended and you'll have no clue. Not all relationships end with a break up. Most people are in a relationship that has ended already. The definition of a relationship that is over is a relationship when one or both parties has stopped attempting to fill the other’s wants and needs, when one or both parties stop learning about the other, and/or when one or both parties stops in the pursuit of improving the relationship. Even though I said earlier that there isn’t a thing called love, when the love stops, so does the relationship. A relationship should be treated like a living organism. It has a life, it will grow, and it will change. It is important for both parties to know as they change so will their relationship. In the beginning what was important to one, may not be important years, days, hours, minutes, or seconds later. Today your spouse may like their eggs sunny side up. Tomorrow they may like their eggs scrambled. That is a relationship. It is going to change. Either you change with it or accept when your relationship has ended. Chances are though; most people will not recognize that their relationship is over.

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Welcome!!!

Welcome to the Man Reason Ideal Wifey!!! Simply put, the Ideal Wifey. It is what it is. The gloves are off. Look around at all these women magazines and all you’ll see is misinformation. The only way to get the right answers to the questions that you have is to just come out and ask the person you want the answers from. Well, women keep asking me the same questions over and over, and I keep answering. Then came Man Reason, and as that has grown I decided to expand the Man Reason empire and tackle the questions burning inside women. Well hopefully not burning. Welcome to the Ideal Wifey!!!

Do u want to be the perfect wifey?

Do you want to know how to truly please a man?

Do you want to know what a man wants and needs?

Do you want to have the best relationship that you could have?

The question is, do u?

Welcome to the Ideal Wifey, where all your questions will be answered.

THE IDEAL WIFEY

What is the Ideal Wifey? You would think that for every man the answer to this question would be different right? If you said yes, you are sadly mistaking. Ever wonder why some men get all the ladies’ attention? Or why the woman who just walked in wearing the tight mini dress with the high stripper like heels is receiving all the attention from the men in the room including your boyfriend? The answer is simple and once you understand that, relationships will become easier to you. Do some reading on what is called “natural selection” from Charles Darwin. While you’re at it also look “survival of the fittest” from Herbert Spencer. Unless you have time on your hands, which I don’t, look them up on Wikipedia. I though, will be introducing a combination theory here: The Man Reason Ideal Wifey Theory.

The Man Reason Ideal Wifey Theory:


"People chose their mate from a formed imagined image and the conceptualization of relationship conjectures."

In short, you will come up with an image of what your spouse is to be like based off of things you have learned about relationships throughout your life from experience, other people’s statements, and/or your beliefs. No two people will have the same definition to what a relationship should be like, but people do share basic beliefs based off of society’s general vague definition to what a relationship is.

In comes the Ideal Wifey BlogSpot. Like a superhero wearing a cape, our, or my job, is to take all of the societal bull crap, picking out what is fiction and not fact, then post about it to help women understand one thing: Relationships are easy.

What? Relationships are easy? Yes, they are. If your relationship isn’t then obliviously there is a problem. The Ideal Wifey will focus on teaching the proper usage of the tools needed in order to make your relationship easy. If you never learned how to, then you will never know how.

For our first Ideal Wifey Post, we will introduce the Ideal Wifey Pledge. The pledge symbolizes the dedication necessary in order to learn how to be the Ideal Wifey.


The Ideal Wifey Pledge:


"I do solemnly swear (or affirm) that I will faithfully attempt to become the Ideal Wifey. I will not become discouraged, nor will I have fear in the eye of adversity. To be the Ideal Wifey takes hard work and dedication. I will dedicate my life to the hard work necessary to achieve the status of the Ideal Wifey. I do solemnly swear."


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